Friday, April 22, 2016

India/Pearl recap #1 (originally posted on Facebook while in India)



Wanted to share a little recap of the last 24 hours with Pearl Divya (calling her both names right now since she was called Divya in the orphanage, but plan to use only Pearl in the future): she's eating pretty well for us, drinks water from an open glass (doesn't like her sippy cup), took a nap yesterday and slept over 10 hours straight last night (we think the stress of yesterday took over), likes to play with the baby doll and plastic keys we brought for her, and seems to find great comfort with a blanket my friend, Amy, made for her. 

She has started attaching to me by wanting me to hold her when she’s distraught, putting her head down on my shoulder and by following my every move around the hotel room.  This is huge because of the traumatic “hand-off” that occurred at the orphanage, where she literally screamed her head off, lunged backwards and fought me as hard as she could.  Sounds crazy, but this was a good sign that she saw me as a stranger and had made attachments with her caregivers.  It’s also proof that she has great potential for healthy attachments with us in the future.  Earlier today, I rocked her and sang as many worship choruses as I could remember over her, then started playing with her, making faces, etc. and not only did I get her first big smile, I even got a laugh.

Derek isn’t fairing as well with her; this is very normal with adoptive children.  Pearl has only known female caregivers, so we think he is just a little scary to her still.  She will let him give her snacks or water if I am holding her.  He is so patient and caring, gently pursuing her, but the constant pushing him away is starting to hurt.  Please pray she turns a corner soon with this.  We believe she will really start to come around when we get home and she sees her sisters interacting with him. 

In a few hours, we will head to the airport for her first flight.  We fly back to Delhi and will be there for the next week for her medical appointments, our embassy appointment and the foreign regional office appointment. Please pray however the Spirit leads you to pray; we still need them!  Thank y’all so much for all the joy and celebration you’ve shared for and with us.  Now the real work begins…letting her experience God’s amazing love as it pours through us.find great comfort with a blanket my friend, Amy Kistler made for her. She has started attaching to me by wanting me to hold her when she's distraught, putting her head down on my shoulder and by following my every move around the hotel room. find great comfort with a blanket my friend, Amy Kistler made for her. She has started attaching to me by wanting me to hold her when she's distraught, putting her head down on my shoulder and by following my every move around the hotel room.
This is huge because of the traumatic "hand-off" that occurred at the orphanage, where she literally screamed her head off, lunged backwards and fought me as hard as she could. Sounds crazy, but this was a good sign that she saw me as a stranger and had made attachments with her caregivers. It's also proof that she has great potential for a healthy attachments with us in the future.
Earlier today, I rocked her and sang as many worship choruses as I could remember over her, then started playing with her, making faces, etc. and not only did I get her first big smile, I even got a laugh.
Derek isn't fairing as well with her; this is very normal with adoptive children. Pearl has only known female caregivers, so we think he is just a little scary to her still. She will let him give her snacks or water if I am holding her. He is so patient and caring, gently pursuing her, but the constant pushing him away is starting to hurt. Please pray she turns a corner soon with this. We believe she will really start to come around when we get home and she sees find great comfort with a blanket my friend, Amy Kistler made for her. She has started attaching to me by wanting me to hold her when she's distraught, putting her head down on my shoulder and by following my every move around the hotel room.
This is huge because of the traumatic "hand-off" that occurred at the orphanage, where she literally screamed her head off, lunged backwards and fought me as hard as she could. Sounds crazy, but this was a good sign that she saw me as a stranger and had made attachments with her caregivers. It's also proof that she has great potential for a healthy attachments with us in the future.
Earlier today, I rocked her and sang as many worship choruses as I could remember over her, then started playing with her, making faces, etc. and not only did I get her first big smile, I even got a laugh.
Derek isn't fairing as well with her; this is very normal with adoptive children. Pearl has only known female caregivers, so we think he is just a little scary to her still. She will let him give her snacks or water if I am holding her. He is so patient and caring, gently pursuing her, but the constant pushing him away is starting to hurt. Please pray she turns a corner soon with this. We believe she will really start to come around when we get home and she sees find great comfort with a blanket my friend, Amy Kistler made for her. She has started attaching to me by wanting me to hold her when she's distraught, putting her head down on my shoulder and by following my every move around the hotel room.
This is huge because of the traumatic "hand-off" that occurred at the orphanage, where she literally screamed her head off, lunged backwards and fought me as hard as she could. Sounds crazy, but this was a good sign that she saw me as a stranger and had made attachments with her caregivers. It's also proof that she has great potential for a healthy attachments with us in the future.
Earlier today, I rocked her and sang as many worship choruses as I could remember over her, then started playing with her, making faces, etc. and not only did I get her first big smile, I even got a laugh.
Derek isn't fairing as well with her; this is very normal with adoptive children. Pearl has only known female caregivers, so we think he is just a little scary to her still. She will let him give her snacks or water if I am holding her. He is so patient and caring, gently pursuing her, but the constant pushing him away is starting to hurt. Please pray she turns a corner soon with this. We believe she will really start to come around when we get home and she sees find great comfort with a blanket my friend, Amy Kistler made for her. She has started attaching to me by wanting me to hold her when she's distraught, putting her head down on my shoulder and by following my every move around the hotel room.
This is huge because of the traumatic "hand-off" that occurred at the orphanage, where she literally screamed her head off, lunged backwards and fought me as hard as she could. Sounds crazy, but this was a good sign that she saw me as a stranger and had made attachments with her caregivers. It's also proof that she has great potential for a healthy attachments with us in the future.
Earlier today, I rocked her and sang as many worship choruses as I could remember over her, then started playing with her, making faces, etc. and not only did I get her first big smile, I even got a laugh.
Derek isn't fairing as well with her; this is very normal with adoptive children. Pearl has only known female caregivers, so we think he is just a little scary to her still. She will let him give her snacks or water if I am holding her. He is so patient and caring, gently pursuing her, but the constant pushing him away is starting to hurt. Please pray she turns a corner soon with this. We believe she will really start to come around when we get home and she sees her sisters interacting with him.
In a few hours, we will head to the airport for her first flight. We fly back to Delhi and will be there for the next week for her medical appointment, our embassy appointment and the foreign regional office appointment. Please pray however the Spirit leads you to pray; we still need them! Thank y'all SO much for all the joy and celebration you've shared for and with us. Now the real work begins...letting her experience God's amazing love as it pours through us.

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